Listening Before Speaking

It's not easy for most of us to listen. 

The Bible refers to people who like to speak without first listening and seeking to understand others as “fools.” Wise people listen first before voicing their opinions (Prov. 18:2). Stephen Covey vividly captures this principle in one of his 7 habits : seek first to understand, then to be understood.

Sometimes it is best to keep quiet or to weigh our thoughts and words carefully (Prov. 11:12; 17:27-28). We need to watch what we say and state our opinions on a matter only after we hear the facts (Prov. 18:13). Timing is also important. We can say something that sounds harmless at the wrong time and still do a lot of damage.

To evaluate ourselves in this area we may want to ask others for an honest opinion. We can also ask ourselves when was the last time someone came to us for our counsel.

One action point that helps me, during the meetings, I would take down notes on follow-up questions and summary of what I heard. 

We can grow as a listener. We can be more sensitive to those around us who needs listening.